I’m a porn actress and I fight against female sexual power. I swear that I’ll give a handjob to anyone who’ll ask me for it.
Power is not what constrains someone to do something. That’s force. Power is what induces people to intuitively recognize implicit social hierarchies. The language of power consists of gestures, poses, glances, coats & ties, nearly imperceptible bows, linguistic codes, etc.; communitarian links are the essence of power. Power isn’t a formal matter, so freedom from power is a different thing from formal freedom of choice. Power is based on habits, common sense, education and all that contributes to shore up what is perceived as “normality” through implicit (or “obvious”) social codes. To fight against power is to fight against any implicit idea of normality.
Inter alia, gender discrimination is a consequence of power. It’s not based on law; it’s based on habits, common sense, education and all that contributes to shore up what is perceived as “gender normality” through implicit (or “obvious”) gender codes. Sexual power is a form of power based on a common-sense idea of “normality” about gender-differentiated sexual approaches and behaviors. A specific form of sexual power is female sexual power. Female sexual power is a form of power based on gender differences on receptivity to sexual offers. An obvious consequence of female sexual power is the ease with which an unskilled woman can succeed in being paid for normal sex.
As any other form of power, female sexual power isn’t a formal matter, so freedom from female sexual power is a different thing from formal freedom of choice. If a man “freely” decides to pay an unskilled woman for normal sex, in fact he is a victim: he is a victim of female sexual power. Freedom of choice is irrelevant in this issue. Usury is often based on free-choice agreements, but it’s considered immoral and it’s illegal. Then we can say that being paid for normal sex is a sort of usury. Taking advantage of gender differential in access to casual sex is disgusting.
Female sexual power is not the only form of sexual power. There are forms of male sexual power, too. Anyhow, male and female sexual power are two sides of the same coin. We have to fight against the idea that gender differences are naturalistically justified and do not have to be razed. As a porn actress, I try to propose a model of perfect symmetry between male and female availability for casual sex. I believe that casual sex is everyone’s right and should be an effective right. Coherently, I swear that I’ll give a satisfying handjob to anyone who’ll ask me for it (circumstances permitting). And it’s not a matter of charity!
Rape originated as a crime against property and community values, not a crime against a person. Today, rape is considered to be a terrible thing by most of the peoples of the world. Why so? For some elites, because it’s a crime against sexual self-determination. However, for most people the emotional aspects of rape-related indignation haven’t changed so much through the years – and that’s much worse than rape itself.
Unthinking gut-feeling aversion to rape is worse than rape itself (and makes rape itself worse) if it depends on a family/community idea of sexual management, because then it presupposes the property view that family and community have rights over individuals’ (especially women’s) sexuality. Such rights are not ordained by law, but they exist in practice: education makes them effective. Rape is one of the least reported crimes in the world because rape victims implicitly consider community aspects of the offence worse than personal ones, and that’s the reason why rape is commonly considered a more serious offence then the sum of violence and coercion that it’s constituted of. So, rape is not the core problem. The persistence of traditional sexual values is the core problem.